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Why Being “Realistic” and “Reasonable” is Death Rattle to Success

December 14, 2018

We’ve been programmed to believe that it’s foolish to believe in our biggest dreams, and that we should instead be realistic and reasonable. How does this get in the way of us actually doing what we were put on this earth to do? When people are realistic and reasonable, how does this manifest in their behavior, choices, and actions? How do the most successful and inspiring people respond to the pressure to be realistic? On this episode, I talk about why we need to break the paradigm of being realistic and reasonable if we want to achieve our Big, Hairy, Audacious Goals, and how to make the necessary shifts in perspective.


I can have it exactly the way I want it if I don’t settle. That is the champion’s mantra. -Doren Aldana



  • Our loved ones tell us to be realistic because they don’t want us to get disappointed when we try to reach for higher ground. They’ve experienced disappointment themselves and project what happened to them onto us.

  • Being reasonable reinforces our lack, scarcity and inadequacy and powerlessness.

  • When we believe that we have to be realistic, we allow ourselves to be the effect and not the cause of everything that happens to us.  


At the start of the show, I talked about where the idea of being realistic and reasonable comes from and why it’s something we have to get away from if we want to succeed. Next I talked about the inspirational people who proved to us that the true path to success starts when we choose to do the unprecedented, the unreasonable and the unrealistic. I also discussed the true path mediocrity.

I also discussed;

  • How to go after our goals without holding back
  • How to shift our perspectives
  • The danger of having a herd mentality


The truth about successful and inspirational people is that they brought unreasonable faith, effort, excellence and drive in order to achieve what they did. The true path to unstoppable and incredible success is being unreasonable and unrealistic, and going against what the herd says.